♥Special Valentine’s Day Advice Blog♥
You are soooo loved – today & every day!
Tammy M. writes:
I’ve been married for 8 years and my husband always plans the same thing for Valentine’s day. We go to dinner and a movie. I’m not complaining though. I know lots of marriages that don’t even do that much. It’s just that it is one of the only times a year we go out without the kids and I would like to do something that is special and gives us memories. Am I just being a nag? Should I talk to him about it?
Dear Tammy M,
If you want to be married for 8 more years I would say don’t criticize someone who is trying to do something nice. Criticizing only puts the other person on the defense and doesn’t solve anything.
On the other hand, I applaud you for wanting to spend what little alone time you have away from the kids to have meaningful time with your spouse. No, you aren’t being a nag – you want more for your relationship and that is a good thing.
So, here is my question – why don’t you plan your Valentine’s date? Just suggest to your hubby that you’d like to “let him off the hook” this year and you plan the outing that you desire. On the outing fill him with reassurance that you planned the date to show your love for him and because you appreciate how he has always been willing to take you out on this special day (when so many other married guys don’t). You don’t want him to come away feeling he has ever let you down with his dinner and movie dates.
You don’t have much time to plan this today – so get to creating your surprise date already!
Have fun and do love!
Valentine’s Blues writes:
I’m single this Valentine’s day for the first time in many years. Any suggestions on how to make the best of it?
Dear Valentine’s Blues,
The good thing is that you are getting to spend some time getting to know yourself again. The bad thing is that a day like today is in your face and makes you feel like you are lacking something. It’s not set up to be loving to people who aren’t in love, is it? It’s like a private club that you don’t belong to anymore.
Or do you?
It is so important to love yourself – even more than you think you could love a partner. If you don’t love and honor yourself, not only can others not love and honor you, but you can’t love and honor others. What you give yourself is what you can give to others.
Today is nothing more than the day to honor love. You are love. You are loved. Honor yourself.
Take yourself out. Buy yourself a beautiful plant or bouquet of flowers. Treat yourself to that delightful chocolate. Enjoy a lovely dinner.
Love yourself. You are so worth it!
Have a beautiful evening!