Dear Genie #8

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Today’s Letter

 

Seeking Acceptance writes:

Dear Genie,

I’m not a religious person like my family. I also work with divination tools like the Tarot and seek advice from psychics and readers. My family have warned me that I could open portals to hell and other nonsense that goes beyond not accepting my life views. They are hurtful and mean about pushing their ideology on to me. How can I gain their acceptance and still be true to my spirit?

 

Dear Seeking Acceptance,

Aren’t we all in search of this from those we love?  No matter how many times we read self-help books that tell us that self-acceptance is all we need, we still long for unconditional love and support from our family.  And so rarely is that given.

Unfortunately, I can’t give you a magical solution to this problem.  It’s one I face myself.  Anyone who chooses a path that is different from their family faces this reality.  Why?  I would say the biggest reason is that when you choose to be drastically different from your family they see it as a judgement against their way of life.  Of course, it isn’t.  You are just trying to live your truth; one that informs them of the limitations of their own beliefs. It makes them question themselves and that makes them afraid.

Fear is a powerful force that drives beliefs, emotions and behaviors.  Fighting fear with fear (lack of acceptance in this case) only creates more of it – like cutting the head off of a Hydra.  The only thing you can do is live your truth.  Live your passion.  Live your life with joy and happiness and success. Live from Love.   It is only in your example of living your life from love that fear can be calmed.

And, by the way, living from love also means that you treat yourself with love and compassion and understanding.  The mean and derogatory behavior by others towards you is not okay.  Set boundaries.  Let them know that this is how you live and that they don’t have to agree with you but the hurtful comments must stop. We are free to believe as we want – all of us.  We are not free to force others to submit to our beliefs.  If they persist- you’ve got to make a choice to do what is best for your heart, mind, and soul and that may mean not being around hurtful people.

I hope this helps.  I feel for you so much, but I know you can prevail and live your best life!

Light and Love,

Genie


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Love Is The Cure

When you are standing up high on a pedestal of self-righteousness, it’s really hard to see way down to the roots of that terrible thing you tower over. You know you are right. You know you have the moral high ground. Those other people are so wrong it makes you furious! You are in the position to reign heaps of fire down on those terrible people with those specious beliefs – and you do so quite frequently.

And you feel better after you post with the name calling and the superior wit and the indignation. What a relief it is to let those people know how smart you are and how right you are and how wrong and poisonous is their mere existence. Damn you religious nut jobs! Get a job you socialist libtard! Screw you white nationalists! Read a book you ignorant trailer trash! You’re an orange cheeto loving dotard! Fascist pigs! Go back to your own country! Put god back in schools (my god, not yours)!!!


I’m not saying you’re wrong to have strong feelings about people who support the current president or the atrocious things he is doing. I’m also not saying you are wrong to worry about high taxes and feeding your family. It hasn’t been too long since I typed a few of those sentences on my own Facebook wall. One day I just decided it wasn’t getting me anywhere except angry, spun up, and acting out of integrity. See, I’m a recovering rage-aholic. I’ve worked really hard to change that and become a person with standards of behavior – naming calling and violent expressions are off my list of choices in how to respond to someone. And, yet, I have been sucked back in to this hate-fueled fighting on social media. So have you – even though that hostile, intolerant, hate-spewing person is not really who you are – not “in real life”.

When we react that way we give up our power; we give up our truth and our integrity. We say to the other person, “here, take my soul because I am following your lead.” We act just like them – we become just like them – we are just like them. We are fighting against something we think is wrong by becoming something that is wrong.

The hate is just not okay. It’s not. There is no moral high ground when hate is your strategy.


Hate cannot defeat hate; it’s a losing strategy. We’ve got to take our power back and come up with something that can help us heal the wounds in our friendships and relationships – and it starts with a compassionate heart and desire to be a better person.

Yes, there are sociopaths, psychopaths and really evil narcissists in the world who have no moral compass – no heart. These people are rare and I’m not talking about these kinds mentally disturbed people – I’m talking about your brother and your aunt and your uncle and your childhood friend who you suddenly find loathsome and shocking.

Is it possible – just possible – that these people we go after with venomous rage are also not the hate-spewing trolls they appear to be on social media? Are they different “in real life”? Are they just angry and full of fear just like you? I’m not excusing bad behavior and racism and bigotry and sexism and the vileness going on. I’m saying that all this hate is coming from somewhere and maybe we need to respond to that instead throwing more hate on the fire.

Hate comes from fear. Fear is the root of this dis-ease in our country. Hate-spewing is a symptom just like fever. Rage is a symptom. Irrational beliefs are a symptom. Believing lies and conspiracy theories from mentally ill propagandist is like taking poison from a snake-oil salesman instead of medicine from a doctor. And social media spreads this disease like the flu spreads through your household.

The disease is fear.

Can we cure this with more fear? Can we get rid of a fever by injecting more fever? Of course not! So why are we fighting hate with more hate?

The cure is love.

Why do people roll their eyes when I say that? Why is this such an uncomfortable idea?

Maybe because it means in order to act from love you have to change your beliefs. You have to be responsible for your own behavior. You have to think before you act and respond. You have to know yourself and your moral code.

It’s a heavy burden to love when hate is so much easier.

I’m working on a book to address ways we can #chooselove over hate (fear). It gives a look at love that doesn’t seem mushy or pollyanna – one that is comfortable – doable. It’s coming soon, I promise. In the meantime, here are some things to think about when you come across the hate posts and you want to reply or feel angry and outraged.


How to Love in a time of Hate

1. Self-love is priority. Self-love does not mean self-ish! This is not about thinking you are better than anyone. This is about setting boundaries in your relationships, doing your best each day, and forgiving yourself for your mistakes. This also means not subjecting yourself to this insanity on social media and getting yourself stressed and angry. Take a break.

2. Respond to a hate attack the way you would want someone to communicate with you. Think before you reply. Speak the truth with kindness and compassion even when they don’t deserve it – You deserve it! You deserve the calmness and peace that comes from doing the right things and following your moral code.

3. Refuse petty and childish tactics. I hate to say it, but act your age. No name calling. No character assassinations. No unnecessary vulgar language. Speak with integrity, poise and intelligence.  And when you are wrong, own up to it.

4. Don’t respond to every invitation to debate/fight. Yes, people call us out and say things on our posts or in our groups. You do not have to respond. You can roll your eyes and move on. It’s hard. This I know. But the time and energy you waste adding fuel to the fire of someone already spun up and looking for a place to unleash – it’s not worth it. Love yourself enough to move on.

5. Realize that it is not your job to save other people from their wrong thinking. People are allowed to be wrong. People are allowed to believe whatever they want to believe. It’s not up to you to change them. Likewise, you don’t owe anyone and explanation for your beliefs. This is big. If you can stop trying to change others, you are halfway there.

6. Control what is in your ability to control. That would be you; your behavior, your attitude, your responses, your action, your presence in the world. That’s it. Just you. The great thing about that is that you are able to shine your inner light without care for what others think, feel or believe because they aren’t your business!

7. Know that your behavior is a bigger influence on others than you could ever have in a Facebook debate. Lead by example. It’s that simple. Be the change you want to see in the world.

8. Learn to let go of people around you who break your boundaries and treat you with hate. Eventually enough is enough. It’s okay to walk away from people and situations that don’t change and grow. Sometimes sticking around just enables that person to continue to hate because they can because you stay. If you have to stop inviting uncle Dave to dinner so that you and your family can be at peace, then do so.

9. Remember, it’s just fear.  Fear is not rational.  Fear lies.  Fear is not truth.  Fear wants you to remain in your comfort zone and not change.  Fear will attack others.  Fear is selfish.


 

These ideas are mostly ways just to love yourself enough to stop hating others. It’s a start. The first round of antibiotics to cure this dis-ease. (Yes, we may need several!)

Know that this blog is written in love – to help you find peace in this insanity and to start the change we need to heal.
Peace & Love,

♥ Genie



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Dear Genie #6

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Today’s Dear Genie™ features two letters on a controversial topic – the state of the United States during the current Presidential Administration.  The first letter was sent to me several weeks ago and I wasn’t sure I would ever answer it.  I wanted to address the topic, but wasn’t sure I could do so in a way that wasn’t political.  Yesterday, I received the second letter and decided I would address them both today.  Though I cannot respond without some level of displaying my political opinions, I have tried to address the concerns of these two letters from a healing perspective, rather than to debate political ideology.  The first letter deals with the current condition of fear and stress in the country.  The second with relationships and broken faith in others.   – In peace, Genie


 

Letter #1
Stressed in the U.S. writes:

Dear Genie,

[The current U.S. president]* has got me stressed out. Every day there is new craziness from him and I feel like he is trying to become a dictator and destroy the freedom in our country. I’m mad and scared and there’s not a thing I can do except fight with people on Facebook! Am I over reacting? Am I just falling for media lies? Help! I’m going crazy here!

*I omitted the name of the president here. 

Dear Stressed in the U.S.,

Aren’t we all?  (I joke.  But, seriously, this fear and stress situation is an epidemic!)

I feel ya!  It’s almost surreal.  And the craziness is moving so fast that it’s hard to keep up or even keep track!  The lies, the gaslighting and psychological warfare, the firings, the executive orders, the 3 a.m. tweets, the hate rallies, the name calling, the vindictiveness, the assault on compassion and goodness, the destruction of programs that help people and our environment, the power grabbing, the incompetence, the racism and the hatred of the poor, the fascism approaching…    It is a constant attack on the senses – on emotions – on sanity – Every. Single. Day. 

It’s exhausting.  It’s infuriating.  It’s a feeling of utter powerlessness.

No, you are not over-reacting.  You are just reacting to the constant barrage of stress and fear.  It’s fight or flight mode – 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, thanks to social media and 24 hour news which is full of lies, spin, exaggerations and drama to make you tune in!  And this is true no matter which side of this discussion you fall on. 

What you and just about all of us need to do is to take our power back.  We need to get off the cycle of fight or flight and take back control of our emotions and reactions.  We need to be responsive, which comes from a place of personal power, instead of reactive, which comes from emotion and fear.

To respond means you take the time to think.  You reason.  You ponder what is true.  You question how something aligns with your own beliefs and character and moral code.  When we respond we are in our power.  When we are in our power we are strong, confident, rational, and behaving in the way we choose.  We come from a place of light instead of from fear.

To take our power back we need to learn to control what is ours to control – and usually that includes just one thing – our own behavior.  And, again – this is advice for EVERYONE no matter what your political ideology.

Here are some ways you can take your power back and be in self-control:

  1. Keep track of the things you know are true.  We are being attacked with a psychological warfare tactic known as gaslighting.  This is when we know something is true, but are being told it isn’t true and that we are crazy for thinking it is.  You probably do feel you are going crazy sometimes.  It is a tactic used to strip us of our power of reasoning.  Do not doubt your own mind.

 Look up AMY SISKIND on Facebook.  She has been keeping track of the events within this administration and posts a weekly list of the not normal things going on.  She has kept me sane for sure. 

  1. Stop and research before you post on social media. As much as we can see the lies coming from the other side of this, unfortunately there are also lies, exaggerations, and drama created from “our” side to also keep us wound up and pissed off.  This is reactionary and gives your power of reason away.  Check sources.  Check facts.  Don’t post in anger – post in power! Absolutely feel free to share verifiable information.  That is pro-active and responsive.
  1. Limit your news and social media, especially when you are feeling stressed. Guess what?  That news will be there tomorrow and the next day – take a break.
  1. Be the change you want to see. Post responsibly.  Post from power, not from fear and hatred for others.  Check your own biases.  Don’t fall for the tricks of fighting with others on social media with name calling, character assassinations, and the vile behavior you dislike from this president.  Don’t hate.  When we get drawn in to these fights we lose credibility, we lose the moral high ground, we lose whatever legitimate point we were trying to make.  We lose when we take the bait.  It’s really hard not to REACT.  But, remember – when you REACT you give your power away.
  1. Be pro-active.   VOTE! Get others to vote.  Share truth.  Share love.  Educate through your living example of what it means to be a good person and responsible citizen.  You can make a difference while also walking in integrity and personal power.

These are all things I have to remind myself of frequently, especially #4.  I am a recovering Facebook fighter.  That behavior didn’t hurt anyone but me – and it sure didn’t solve anything.  In fact, I think social media has created a tragic shadow side that has manifested in to a festering toxic waste dump for fear, hatred, and cruelty towards one another.  We have given much of our power away to this monster.

Check out the next letter for more on this.

In Peace & Power,

♥ Genie


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Letter #2
Sad in [T]rumpland writes:

Dear Genie,

Hello. I have been feeling so sad and disappointed lately in so many people in my life. My mind has been blown in this last year as I have seen people I love show their true colors since Trump became President. I have watched as they have either supported him or been silent in regards to the racism, misogyny, narcissism etc. I have watched them defending him and even in some cases been attacked by them for voicing my concerns. I feel like I can’t even talk to them anymore. I feel like I don’t know them and don’t not just political differences it makes me question what kind of human beings they are. Am I judging? Being too harsh? How do I deal with this?

 

Dear Sad in [T]rumpland,

Like the letter above, I have to tell you that I can totally relate to what you are feeling.  My family is multi-ethnic and the same people who say they love my children also say they support the current administration.  How do you say you love a brown skinned child and then vote for the white nationalist nominee?

Do these people we care about secretly hold these awful beliefs or are they just able to compartmentalize the way they see this man?  I mean, it is certainly a stretch for someone to say that they aren’t a racist and that they don’t hate poor people but they support this guy because he’s a good business man.

And what if they are now openly expressing white nationalist/nazi/fascist beliefs they have been harboring until it was safe to express them?  We wonder if we ever knew these people at all! These revelations can absolutely lead to a real crisis of faith in humanity.  This is something we really need to try and prevent.

How many relationships – family ties, friendships, and partnerships – have been broken due to this raging hate that has erupted like a volcano since 2008?   It’s true that there has always been a shadow side of our country that is racist, ethnocentric, and malicious to those outside the white, male, Christian power base.  We seemed to have progressed a great deal though until 2008 happened and fear took a hold of that power base and they have been hell bent on re-establishing their utopia ever since.  I didn’t speak to one of my brothers for two years and I lost a life-long friendship within days of the Obama election.  I lost all respect for most of my childhood friends and most of my family in the years that have followed.

There are millions who can share the same story, and it’s terribly sad and unfortunate.  We need our family.  We need our life-long friends.  We’ve forgiven them for foolishness our whole lives, and they have forgiven us for our mistakes.  Why are our differences in this situation so unforgivable from both sides?  Why don’t we have compassion and understanding for one another anymore?

It’s fear of not surviving.  It’s fear of not mattering in the world.  It’s fear of total annihilation. 

Look, we don’t have to peek too far back in time to see how awful humans can be to one another.  None of us want done to us as “we” have done to others.  On a primal level, the human understanding is that to survive we have to be in control.  The 2008 election was a nightmare for a lot of good ole boys who were told growing up that if a black man came to power he would enslave the white man, plus a lifetime of other white nationalist propaganda mixed in. Fear of survival took a powerful hold.  It’s easy to compartmentalize a person’s character if you think they are saving you from an awful fate.

What is happening since the 2016 election is the worst nightmare for those of us who grew up lamenting the Holocaust.  So we are fighting mad and intolerant and concerned for the survival of our democracy and of the poor and of brown skinned Americans.  We don’t want to listen to the fears of a bunch of people who have controlled everything forever.  And they don’t want to hear from a bunch of socialists who want to annihilate their culture and way of life.

It’s fear.  Primal.  Life and death.  Fear.  And fear is not logical.  Fear is not rational.  Fear does not play well with others.  Fear is Ego trying to save our lives.  

We are choosing sides with abomination of one another because “if you aren’t with me then you aren’t going to help me survive and you might even cause my destruction”.  This is the EGO on steroids.

We all need healing.  Both sides.  The biggest way we can do that is to follow my suggestions from the first letter and take our power back.  We’ve got to learn to control that which is in our ability to control – and that is our own behavior.  We cannot control what anyone else does or says – we can only control our response and our choices.  Our personal power allows us to act from love instead of from fear.  

The second thing we have to do is start communicating like humans again.  Nobody is talking in person anymore. Nobody is listening to anyone.  We are reacting to inflammatory posts with more inflammatory posts – and personal connection is absent.  UGH!  Facebook!  The epitome of the festering toxic waste dump for fear, hatred, and cruelty towards one another.  Would anyone say the things to your face that they say on social media?  Never!  Can you believe that it was just over ten years ago that we had to actually talk to someone face to face or over the phone to discuss these things?  When we talk to each other in person we consider the things we say before we speak.  We hear the tone in another’s voice.  We connect on a human level. We listen to one another. We feel human emotion like compassion, and we have lines we don’t cross.  We don’t know how to listen through social media. Boundaries we have in person are absent online.  Human connection is missing from our society.

People break bonds with friends and family and say offensive things to others easily because the human connection is lost.   They are a little box on a screen.  They are not human.  They are a machine.  And what emotions can we put with a machine – cold, rigid, uncaring,  dis-compassionate, and selfish.  We don’t love a machine.  We don’t worry about what we say to a machine.

We have got to become humans again.  We have got to talk to one another and listen to one another and do it away from the machines.  And to do that we have to be strong and coming from a place of love, not fear.  We have to regain our power.

Don’t lose faith in humanity just yet.  We have lost our way, but we can and will change.  We’ve got to find the light and our humanity again. We just need those who know better to lead the way.  I’m willing if you are.

In Peace, In Power – and maybe someday – In Person,

♥ Genie


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The Bubbly Personality Lie in Spiritual Leadership

Almost every spiritual business mentor and teacher I have and every “how to succeed in life” speaker I have listened to have all been incredibly bubbly, extremely happy,  cheerleader-like personalities.

“Hi, beautiful gals!  Let me show you how to be fabulous sacred healers and attract high value clients! You too can live a life of joy and abundance lovelies! *smiley face, heart, party streamers, praying hands, smiley face*”

That upbeat, confident, bubbly social media message reels me in every time.  How about you?

I mean, someone that happy and successful – because all of these sacred biz mentors and teachers are successful – must really be an amazing spiritual guru, right?  They must have all their shizz together and so this is someone I have got to listen to and emulate if I am going to be successful.  

I am calling bullshit on this spiritual lie.

I finally understand that the bubbly persona is just a caricature – a sales gimmick – an infomercial to get you to buy what program or course they are selling.  It’s not sustainable longer than the length of a webinar or Facebook Live because all spiritual leaders and teachers have the same problems everyone else have – they just choose to be inauthentic and hide their truth so you will buy their happiness model.

Bubbly does not equal happy.  Bubbly does not equal joy.  Bubbly does not equal spiritually awaken-ness. 

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I can’t tell you how much I have beat myself up because I am not a bubbly person and never have been.  I have always been the level-headed problem-solver who people confide in because I am calm and rational and serious.  I’m going to tell you the truth in a compassionate and positive way without sugarcoating it with balloons, hearts, giggles  and a false sense of potential outcome. I can even motivate you without pom-poms or a locker room speech.  But, the last couple years I have often wondered if my scholarly demeanor and lack of cheerleader skill was going to stall my growth as a teacher and leader.  I wondered if I was really happy if I couldn’t present myself in a bubbly manner.

Yes, I doubted if I was happy because I couldn’t fake pretentious happiness. 

Sure, I laugh and I smile when I feel it to do so – I’m neither cold-hearted nor a robot. I live with a ton of joy in my heart and enjoy life with zest every chance I get. I am happy and I am healing and I am growing.  I love life!  I love teaching!  I love learning!  ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥!

I want more than anything to pass on content and education that can help others heal and grow and live happy lives.  I just get in this zone of seriousness and even-temperament when I am teaching.   I don’t spend a lot of energy on creating momentary high vibes and using emoticons to give temporary smiles. (I do use them, just sparingly)  I am in this for the long haul and your long-term happiness and joy.

I’m just not a great salesperson.  I’m really bad at being inauthentic and bringing out my inner actress. That’s probably because I am much more interested in helping you than I am in taking as much of your money as I can get.  The truth is that I can only muster just so much bubble even when I am trying to sell a course or product I think would really benefit your life – not because I don’t care or because I don’t want to get you excited to buy my course – but because I want you to buy it because you want to heal and grow, not because I did a Jedi mind-trick on your emotions.

Are there genuine bubbly people – yes, absolutely!  But, even the bubbliest of people have shadows.  A person who is truly awake and desiring to help others will know that being authentic is vital in spiritual teaching and leadership – it is how you model getting through shadow days that is the real path to spiritual growth.

Be careful of “spiritual leaders” who keep their shadows a secret and only present their sales persona.  And, don’t automatically discount those who present themselves in a calm, even-tempered demeanor because they may just be the most real teachers you’ll find.

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Results Matter

My course, Vision Quest – Journey Through Transformation,  launches in 19 days!  I’m so excited!!  I love helping people ~ it’s my purpose without a doubt ♥

But, I’m not reaching people.  Ads are getting likes, but not enrollments.  FB Lives are being watched, but people aren’t clicking the link to the course page.  Numbers are low at this point.  My message is not getting through.

I know this course is life changing!  I know this course will help so many people~ especially women who are having a difficult time going through major life changes!  I’m just not reaching people in a way that gets that message across.

Here is the truth I have to face.  I’m nobody in the industry.  I have not published a book (yet) and I don’t have a huge following.  The fact is that I don’t have a ton of results to show you to prove my course is legit.

Let me share with you what my friends have told me since my transformation.

I hear a lot of times that I am “calming” and have a “calming affect” on some.  And quite often my friends tell me that I am “much lighter in spirit and such a happy person.”

I am the proof that the program works.  I’ve gone from being an angry, lost, passionless old feeling woman who was ready to give up on life~ to a happy, lively, purpose driven, younger feeling woman who is following her dreams!!

But, don’t take my word for it.  Here are some testimonials from a few of my Facebook students:

The chakra lessons have really been incredible. You are putting it into terms that anyone can understand.  ~B. 

 

Miss G. that reading gave me chills!  It was right on point! ~CG

 

Thank you, Genie, for helping me through a really tough time.  I didn’t think I could do it, but you taught me I can get through anything.  ~MB

 

I was first introduced to Genie’s work through her Facebook page. I signed up for her “Intro to Holistic Healing” and loved it. Filled with tons of info, well organized, bringing many parts together in a very cohesive fashion. Genie is a very supportive and easy to follow teacher. She knows her subjects well. Such a great experience! I look forward to her next online learning experience. ~Nancy M.

 

Genie has helped me to realize my full potential and given me the tools to successfully reach my goals. I can now see the importance of living life with intention.   Her courses provide a plethora of information for healing and moving forward in life. She is extremely knowledgeable of her craft and passes on that knowledge in a way that is enjoyable and easy to understand.  ~LM

 

All these woman were the early students of my course ~ or at least portions of my course, here and there, over the past 10 months.  One of them has changed careers to something she loves, another is running her own healing buisiness, and a third has decided it’s time to live her dreams and is taking time to put herself first.   A fourth woman, who went through 4 years of upheaval and anxiety attacks, is now happily settled in her life, working in a career she loves and living a life she is passionate about.

So, I get it.  Results matter.  And because this course is just launching, I don’t have testimonials from the full course.  I can tell you what results you can absolutely expect if you sign up for this journey:

By the end of this course you will achieve self-awareness, a sense of direction, and a change in attitude. You will be unstuck and moving forward with purpose.  You will feel better than maybe you ever have in your life.  You will be living a life you love.  You will be confidently taking the actions needed to live your dream life.  

How does that sound to you?  Well I can tell you that, for me, it feels amazing and free ~ as if a milion pounds of stress, guilt, shame, and anger were released from my body.  Yes!  It feels that good!

No matter what your hurdle is that is stopping you from living your life fully and with joy – we can get you over it!  And, not just over it – but you’ll have the tools to deal with life the next time it throws you a curve ball!

This course, plus my constant presence and support in class and the Facebook group, can get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Give it look ~

Vision Quest, Journey Through Transformation

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Hello Higher Self

Good morning Higher Self!  I am open and ready to listen to anything you want to tell me today.  

I rush around each morning, making my coffee, getting my shower, feeding the cats, cleaning the cat potty…

Don’t we all rush through our mornings?  Getting the kids to school – getting out the door early to beat the traffic.  The Morning Madness, I used to call it when my kids were young.

This morning I took a moment to breathe first.  The cats were cuddling with me (when they are normally running wild chasing each other first thing) and I got a few moments to stay in bed in silence.  And a voice entered my thoughts,

Get in touch with your higher self this morning. 

This is the inspiration for my posts today – just that simple reminder that we have an inner guidance to help us through the day, if we only take the time to listen.  This is a message a lot of us needed to hear this morning ♥♥♥

Thank you HS!

Some ways you can open up to hearing your inner voice/higher self/ intuition today are below.  Politely ask your higher self to advise you. Remember, you can best listen when you have no distractions.  And, don’t forget to honor your higher self with a thank you.

  • Take a few minutes before you get out of bed to just be still.
  • Take a walk or hike.
  • Meditate.
  • Try some of the new adult coloring craze.
  • Sit still with your morning coffee or glass of water.
  • Spend a couple extra minutes in the shower just letting the water wash over you.
  • Spend lunch alone sitting in the park under a tree.
  • Study a beautiful crystal you have on your desk.
  • Write in a gratitude journal.

It’s amazing what inspiration and ideas will pop in to your head when you stop long enough to pay attention!  Check in with your higher self today.

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Self Healing Safari

I created a challenge for anyone who has been so busy taking care of everyone else that they neglected themselves.  It’s called the 7 Day Self-Healing Safari Challenge and it starts on April 20th in our Facebook Workshop Group.

A Safari is about going out in to the wilderness and searching for the life that lives there – usually tigers and lions and elephants and rhinos and other large animals that thrill and terrify us, but also, for most of us, stir up deep emotions of compassion and conservation for these amazing earth creatures.

Some of us have neglected ourselves so badly over the years that in the area of self-care we might as well be asking you to care for a wild beast over taking time on ourselves.

I get it.  I’ve lived it.  I still, sometimes, get stuck in it.  Saying NO to your kids and others can be tough.  Mine kids are grown and I still struggle with putting myself first.  I think that is why this is the second 7 Day self-care themed work shop in a year – because I need it just as much as anyone.

And, to be honest, I’m kinda tired of seeing the same old chakra images for these workshops.  It’s time for something fresh!  Something we can relate to! Something we can easily recall when trying to work on ourselves long after the workshop has been taken down.

Enter our Safari Animals.

Each of these animals I have chosen will represent a different chakra center.  The chakras make it easy to divide up areas of our lives and focus in on just one area at a time.  These animals are associated with a chakra from my personal perspective and purpose.  You will find some of these animals linked to other chakras by other sources.. some animals are associated with more than one chakra in many sources.  But, it’s all okay!  No one is wrong! We aren’t going to be in bad energy if we don’t place the same animal with the same chakra someone else does because it doesn’t matter – as long as you are able to learn the lesson and do your self-healing it is all perfectly fine.

We will have a new safari animal showcased each day and will associate certain characteristics of that animal to things we can do to care for ourselves and create a happy life.  Each animal will have 4 or 5 activities/exercises you can do to help heal and care for yourself.  You will need to pick two for the challenge, but can do as many of them each day as you choose.

I am asking that participants comment and share in this workshop.  Everyone who actively shares and responds during this workshop and lets me know they completed 2 exercises for each day will get a certificate at the end of the challenge.

To make this a real challenge though- I will also enter everyone who completes the challenge in to a drawing for something cool that I will announce next week!  And there will be times during the week that you can earn having your name put in again to increase your chance of winning!!!!

I love giving things away!!

Join us for this workshop here >>>  7 Day Self-Healing Safari Challenge

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Home Is…

My family moved around a lot when I was a kid – house to house, apartment to apartment – the longest home we had was 8 years and it was a long and unhappy 8 years.

One of my grandmothers lived in the same house until I was about 16.  This was the place I thought of as home.  This is where I spent time with my mom on the rare visit.  This is where my brothers and I were sent for the summer.  This is where we went on Christmas vacation.This is where I learned to love 70s music. This is where I felt welcome and where I spend time with “family”.  I was very attached to this house and the memories.

My grandparents downsized when I was a teen and moved in to an apartment.  They would move several times after that between houses and apartments and none of it felt like home.   About 15 years ago the old house burned down and all that was left behind was the attic room with some of the wall paintings done by uncle and his friends still intact- trippy 60s and 70s style art.  It was heartbreaking.

I also kept on the move in to adulthood, first moving out of my dad’s house in tenth grade to live with my mom.  I moved each year of college.  I moved twice as a single mom.  I moved every few years after I married my Navy husband.  We settle in my mom’s hometown when he retired because she was ill.  We bought a house and have lived in it going on 12 years.  This is the longest I’ve lived anywhere my entire life – and I’ve been itching to move for more than half that time.

My daughter left home in 2010 – my son in 2015.  This just isn’t home anymore.  I never took to this house like I did that old house of my grandparents and my kids have never known a permanent home being military brats.  Home, for us, has always been about our family.  I think the old house burning down was the last thread of attachment I held to a physical place being home. 

2017 might be the year of another move – I’ll keep you posted.

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Brules

I heard the word “brules” this year from Mindvalley Founder, Vishen Lahkiani.  This crazy word really opened my mind to the societal blocks I had always placed on myself – things that were stopping me from living life the way I chose to live it.

Brules = Bullshit Rules.  They are beliefs we have inherited from other people and unknowingly adopt as our own beliefs, even when they aren’t really how we feel.

As we grow up, we take on beliefs from teachers, our parents, the media and society around us. Some of these serve us. Some of these are not really true.

Yet we cling stubbornly to our beliefs — true or untrue. The problem is, what you believe to be true – will tend to be true.   – Vishen Lahkiani 

There are so many beliefs I had stored in my core that I picked up from society – things that stopped me from being my authentic self.  I continue to examine each belief that comes up to block me from happiness – and they come up frequently.

One belief was now that my kids are off to college I am supposed to go out in the workforce – starting all over in establishing a career.  People actually sent me Want Ads and job openings even though I had never stated I was in the market.

I even applied for several jobs – knowing I didn’t want them – knowing I yearned for a different path.  And, the truth is that I don’t have a degree, I don’t have marketable job skills, and I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for the best part of 14 years.  While my kids were young, I worked in their day care center or their school or volunteered full time in the organizations and leagues in which they participated.  With those credentials I couldn’t even get an interview at my local Walmart.  Seriously.  Not qualified for Walmart.

So, I spent my time the last 7 years studying metaphysics on my spiritual journey and following my kids around but had not grown any skills that would help me get a “real world” job.  I felt immense pressure from friends and family to get out there and do something with my life.  One friend even advised me that she didn’t appreciate having to fund my social security and medicare.

I was really freaking out and starting to feel hopeless when I heard about brules.  Society was telling me to get a meaningless job – while my heart was telling me I wanted to continue my metaphysical work and do what I have always done – help others.  I had to find a way where I could both work and do what makes me happy.  And I have!

This blog, my team, tribe quest, my etsy shop, card readings, space clearing, and my upcoming academy courses- these are tools I use in my work to help people and ways I can earn a small income to support my work (and silence the critics).

If you are a Lightworker, empath, card reader, Reiki practitioner, Massage therapist, work-from-home parent, etc…check out the Join My Team tab above. I can help you improve your business while you continue your journey.  I am part of an amazing team – high vibe, motivated, and intelligent metaphysical entrepreneurs and we are breaking a lot of BRULES!!

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